Have you not learnt enough? | BWE Content

I’ve already spoken about reducing social media use in my article about self-esteem but BWE stands for “Black Woman Empowerment” and there are many BW who’ve gone before me that have created content in this space and have educated us and literally changed lives. I am someone who is a product of having these women open my eyes (along with a natural intuition) to the Black female experience and what a BW must do to avoid the traps of society. In terms of BWE content, I believe there are 3 distinct groups as it pertains to those who engage with it: young girls/adults looking for guidance and a way to deal with the misogynoir they face, older women who may not have the tools to live out what is suggested but give advice and support and desire to influence their daughters, nieces etc. and then another group of defeated women who don’t have the tools to “level up” and use such content to cope with where they are or to relieve some of their anger regarding their past choices and I believe the latter is becoming the majority because “levelling up” requires introspection and time dedicated to oneself. 

It’s evident that because of the society we reside in, it’s very important for Black Women (especially when young) to educate themselves and soak up as much knowledge as possible so they can tackle the world but it gets to a point where your focus shouldn’t be on colourism, Black Men or judging other Black Women but actually on achieving your goals and doing what needs to be done. I regularly get asked to write about this or that topic by readers of my blog but looking at my blog, I think it should be clear what I would think about certain topics based on the information I’ve provided. 

When you look at “levelled-up” women who have the lives most of us desire, it’s evident that they probably don’t spend most of their time watching content that discusses the lives of others or trawling forums. They are working out, reading books, finding ways to succeed etc. A lot of time is wasted watching a 2 hour-long video on Keke Palmer when you could use that time thinking about how you as an individual can get a well-to-do partner because if you’ve already educated yourselves, you know Keke’s first mistake was having a baby with a man who didn’t see her worthy of marriage so any discussion or video would be a waste. I think that’s a huge issue with Black Women, that we are extremely distracted (focused on things that don’t require our attention) even when we claim to know better because we may not be watching Love & Hip Hop but think it’s not a time waster since it’s a 3-hour video on a rapper’s colorist comment.

We are not all “teachers” and thought leaders who need to have an opinion on everything happening in the world and debate everything involving a BW. Some of us need to cut the outside noise out and put what we’ve learnt into practice. Don’t get swallowed into watching video after video on things that won’t actively benefit your life. I’m very aware that it’s easier said than done but let’s make the effort. At a certain point in your life, what a random celebrity or a passport bro is doing should be the last thing on your mind. Sometimes you have to ask yourself “Does this even matter?”. Focus on reaching your goals and being a BW that others will be inspired by and cut out the distractions. I obviously have some level of intuition and like to share my views but it’s not my main focus at this point in my life. I’m trying to be one of many levelled up BW to where we won’t even need BWE spaces like other races don’t because they are so focused on improving their individual lives so it reflects on their whole community.

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